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Recipe time…3 pumpkin dishes

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Pumpkin pie dip

8 ounces cream cheese, softened
2 cups confectioner’s sugar
15 ounce can pumpkin
1+1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon ginger

Instructions

In large bowl, beat cream cheese and confectioner’s sugar until creamy.
Add pumpkin, cinnamon, and ginger. Beat until well blended.
Cover and chill until ready to serve.
Serve with gingerbread cookies, graham sticks, gingersnaps, or apple slices.
Delicious!

Pumpkin pie rice pudding

1 1/2 cups Minute Rice, uncooked
1 12-fl oz can evaporated milk
1 cup fresh puree pumpkin or canned pumpkin
1 cup water 1/2 cup brown sugar
2 tsp pumpkin spice
1/4 tsp salt
1 tsp vanilla extract

Combine all ingredients, except vanilla, in a medium saucepan.
Cook over medium heat for 20 minutes, stirring frequently.
Remove from heat and stir in vanilla extract. Let stand for 5-10 minutes.
Serve granished with a dusting of pumpkin-pie spice, graham crackers,
whipped cream or pecans or a combination, if desired.

Serves 4.

Pumpkin soup

1/4 cup chopped green peppers
1 bay leaf, optional
2 Tbsp. butter or oleo
2 cups water
2 chicken bouillon cubes
1 Tbsp flour
1 tsp butter
2 Tbsp. chopped onion
1 tsp parsley flakes
1 diced tomato
2 cups mashed cooked pumpkin or squash
2 cups milk
1/8 tsp black pepper

Sauté peppers, onions, parsley, and bay leaf in butter until tender. Do Not Brown.
Add tomatoes, pumpkin or squash, water and bouillon, bring to a boil.
Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes, stirring occasionally.
In small bowl combine flour and milk; blend well.
Stir into soup mixture.
Add salt and pepper.

Cook over medium heat, stirring frequently, until mixture boils.

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xmas this year

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I love xmas. I love decorating the house and the outside of the house. this year we’ll be with our parents on xmas. we’ve done that now for the last couple of years. our sister is going to her partners family for xmas dinner, so in our parents house it will be just them, and us. our sister really doesn’t want to go to her partners family but she kinda has to because of the kids, all the kids in their family will be there, and if she comes to our mom and dads, then her two kids will have nobody to play with and they’ll be bored. she said she’d visit though on xmas morning so we can give Lauren and Davin their gifts. we already have their gifts bought. we bought lauren two fairy dolls, they are neat, I helped to pick them out. they come from the tinkerbell series of dolls. we got davin a pirate ship. we have quite a lot of our xmas presents bought. its neat to xmas shop, I love it. you know what else is neat? xmas baking. our sister is making our parents a cake this year…a fruit cake. she’s already made it but it isn’t iced yet. and I hope we have the traditional xmas dinner of turkey and ham. I asked our mom to buy a stuffed boned and rolled turkey, cuz I love the stuffing that comes inside of it. I also love mince pies. I had some today with custard. they were yummilicious. im wondering what we’re getting for xmas. we don’t believe in santa, but we do believe in the xmas fairy. she’ll be coming to all us kids carol anne said. then we’ll also get gifts from our mom and sister and in our sisters partners family we are doing secret santa, we all picked a name each and then we have to buy one person a gift and nobody know who has who. I think that will be so much fun. I guess this is turning into a long post but I just wanted to tell a little about xmas this year because I’m a big fan.

love
Gabby age 12

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Was meant to see Mark our ocupational therapist today..but didnt

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So…I was meant to go see our occupational therapist Mark today. I didn’t go. Call me lazy, but…the weather outside is miserable. Its been raining hard all morning, and…I just didn’t feel like going out and getting soaked to the skin. So I texted him at 9 AM, our appointment was for 12 PM. I said that I wouldn’t be coming but that I’d phone him later. And I did. We had a long chat over the phone. And we rearranged our appointment for two weeks time. He’s a really awesome person who knows how to do his job and do it well. He said he had lots to discuss with me when we meet next. We’re going to finish doing the interest list, and he and I did some research into different things, like singing lessons, the gym and membership, swimming and cycling amongst other things. This is all so I can become more involved in the community, to make and build connections, all so that my mental health will be better and I’ll have other things to focus on to keep me well and stable. A bonus to our conversation today was he asked if I am ok, if there is anything I needed to talk about, or tell him, if my weeks been ok. He didn’t have to do that. He didn’t have to care. It left me feeling really cared about and since I didn’t see Dr Barry this week because she’s on vacation, it was nice to have Mark check on me to ensure I’m ok and safe. I honestly feel really really lucky to have such an awesome and dedicated team supporting me and helping me through all of my struggles. Mark isn’t even part of Dr Barrys team, but when I moved over to her team about a year ago now, he kept me on as a client. He also didn’t have to do that. Its not usually done. So I really do feel blessed and so very lucky to have him as part of my team.
Carol anne

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xmas is coming and…here is a treat to bake for your friends!

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Peanut Butter Cup Cookies
Ingredients

3 cups all purpose flour
1 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
1 tsp baking soda
1 tsp salt
1-1/2 cups brown sugar – packed
1 cup granulated sugar
1/2 cup I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter Spread – melted
1/2 cup Reese’s Spreads
2 tsp vanilla extract
2 eggs – room temperature
4 tbsp water
2-1/2 cups Peanut Butter Chips
Instructions

Preheat oven to 375 degrees
Combine flour, cocoa, baking soda & salt in medium size bowl- set aside
Cream sugars, I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter & Reese’s Spreads
Add eggs, vanilla & water. Beat well
Add dry ingredients
Fold in peanut butter chips
Make tablespoon sized balls with the dough & place on baking sheet
Add a couple extra peanut butter chips to the tops
Bake 7-9 minutes
Cool on baking sheet 5 minutes before transferring to wire rack to completely cool.
Store in airtight container
*Makes approx 64 small cookies

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Dissociation is…

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a muddled brain
flitting in and out
as you try to grapple
to hang on for dear life
time whizzes by so fast
you wonder where it went
what you did
who you saw
how did the hours fly by?
where was I?
this is dissociation at its finest
as you try to figure out the answers in therapy
you know someone inside has them
but nobodys giving any clues
what to do?
so you keep on searching
hopeful that some time soon the answers will come
hoping…hoping
desperately seeking the truth so you can piece together the weeks, hours and days of your life

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FROM LIZ, MY TIME IN THERAPY LAST NIGHT

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SO CAROL ANNE AND ALICIA BOTH TOLD YOU ABOUT THERAPY AND THEIR PART OF LAST NIGHTS THERAPY SESSION. NOW ITS MY TURN.

I’D BEEN WANTING TO TALK TO EILEEN ABOUT SOME STUFF FOR A FEW WEEKS. FINALLY LAST NIGHT I JUST CAME FORWARD AND WE TALKED.

MOSTLY WE DISCUSSED THINGS ABOUT THE DARKS. WE TALKED ABOUT HOW TWO INSIDERS IN THE DARKS ARE STRUGGLING WITH TRYING TO NOT MAKE CONTACT WITH ABUSERS. THERE’D BEEN SOME LOST TIME THIS WEEK, AND, I TOLD HER IT WAS BECAUSE THOSE TWO INDIVIDUALS WERE OUT THEN. THEY’D RECIEVED SOME UNWANTED EMAILS, AND PHONE CALLS, WITH ORDERS WHICH THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON. AND THEY HADNT DONE SO.

EILEEN SAID SHE REALLY RESPECTS THEM FOR THEIR EFFORTS IN NOT FOLLOWING THROUGH ON THE ORDERS WHICH THEY WERE GIVEN. SHE SAID THAT THAT NEEDED TO BE ACKNOWLEDGED. SHE ASKED ME THEN HOW THE DARKS FELT ABOUT SHIRLEY HAVING SPOKEN TO HER A WEEK OR TWO EARLIER AND I SAID WE DIDNT FEEL THREATENED, THAT SOME OF US DIDNT CARE, BUT FOR SOME OF US IT WAS A HUGE STEP, AND IT MEANT WE REALLY DID TRUST HER BECAUSE WE WERE ALLOWING HER ACCESS TO OUR CORE, SHIRLEY, OUR HOST, THE MOST VULNERABLE OF US ALL. SHE ACKNOWLEDGED HOW THIS MEANT A LOT TO HER AND SHE WOULD TAKE IT SLOW AND GO EASY ON SHIRLEY AND NOT TRY TO RUSH INTO THINGS.

I TOLD HER I THOUGHT THAT SOME OF THE DARK INSIDERS WOULD NEVER COME AROUND TO THE IDEA OF GOING TO THERAPY AND ATTACHING OR TRUSTING SOMEONE AND THAT THEY PROBABLY MIGHT NEVER TALK TO HER. SHE SAID THATS OK AND SHE WOULDNT BE PUSHING ANYONE WHO DIDNT WANT TO TALK TO HER TO TALK. THAT ITS NOT A PRODUCTIVE WAY OF DOING THINGS. THAT IN TIME IF THEY FELT LIKE IT SHE’D BE THERE AND WILLING AND READY TO TALK TO THEM. AND WE LEFT IT AT THAT.

THE SESSION WAS PRETTY INTENSE. I FELT BETTER THOUGH AFTER TALKING. BUT THEN, I ALWAYS DO.
LIZ

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Resource-What is resilience?

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Resilience has a number of important tools.

AWARENESS:
Resilient people are aware of the situation, their own emotional reactions and the behaviour of those around them. In order to manage feelings, it is essential to understand what is causing them and why. By remaining aware, resilient people can maintain their control of the situation and think of new ways to tackle problems.

AN UNDERSTANDING THAT SETBACKS ARE PART OF LIFE:
Another characteristic of resilience is the understanding that life is full of challenges. While we cannot avoid many of these problems, we can remain open, flexible and willing to adapt to change.

SELF AGENCY:
Do you perceive yourself as having control over your own life? Or do you blame outside sources for failure and problems? Generally, resilient people tend to have what psychologists call an internal locus of control. They believe that the action they take will affect the outcome of an event. Of course, some factors are simply outside of our personal control, such as natural disasters. While we may be able to put some blame on external causes, it is important to feel as if we have the power to make choices that will affect our situation, our ability to cope and our future. Responsibility is not blame it is taking ownership.

KEEP YOUR EYE ON THAT BIG PICTURE:
Aim for long-term goals, whilst you tick off and enjoy the short term ones.

STRONG PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS:
When a crisis emerges, will you be able to spot the solution that will lead to a safe outcome. In danger situations, people sometimes develop tunnel vision. They fail to note important details or take advantage of opportunities. Resilient individuals, on the other hand, are able to calmly and rationally look at the problem and envision a successful solution.

HAVING STRONG SOCIAL CONNECTIONS:
Whenever you’re dealing with a problem, it is important to have people who can offer support.
Talking about the challenges you are facing can be an excellent way to gain perspective, look of new solutions or simply express your emotions.

IDENTIFYING AS A SURVIVOR, NOT A VICTIM:
When dealing with any potential crisis, it is essential to view yourself as a survivor. Avoid thinking like a victim of circumstance, and instead look for ways to resolve the problem. While the situation may be unavoidable, or perhaps unappealing you can still stay focused on a positive outcome.

BEING ABLE TO AS FOR HELP:
While being resourceful is an important part of resilience, it is also essential to know when to ask for help. During a crisis, people can benefit from the help of psychologist and counsellors specially trained to deal with crisis situations. What might be other useful supports for you?

FLEXIBILITY:
Can you roll with change? Be prepared to look critically at you, your attitudes and your choices and plans. Are they working? Maybe you are limited yourself. Maybe it is a great idea, but the timing is wrong. Maybe it’s time to try something else, something new? Or mix some new things in with your existing practice? Be open to change if needed.